"I'm so fat! I look disgusting!" Be honest, how often have thoughts like this crossed your mind as you looked at your reflection in the mirror? The future will be better, because in the future you will have lost 20, 40, 60lbs and you will look so much better. And if you look better, you'll feel better about yourself. You'll be able to fit into the skinny jeans, the little black dress. You wouldn't admit these thoughts to anyone around you. These thoughts are secret. They are nobody's business. Others don't need to know about your self-destructive talk.
Newsflash! You won't feel better about yourself when you lose that weight. You'll find something else that is wrong with you. Now that you've lost the weight, you'll want to lose the flab. You'll want the six pack abs. You'll still see your imperfections. Sure, you'll be excited about the clothes you fit into now. But at home, naked in front of the mirror, the little nagging voice is still there, still bugging you that you are not quite right the way you are.
The Wellness Cycle
Isn't it high time you started loving you now? Wouldn't it be nice to learn to look into that mirror and thank your body for its hard work? Wouldn't you love to be able to look into your own eyes and say with conviction, "I love you."? Wouldn't it be grand, if weight loss was just a positive side effect of your healthy lifestyle rather than the one thing that you want for happiness? Weight loss alone will not give you happiness. It will not make you suddenly love you. The love for you has to be there already. The love for you is the biggest most important thing in the world. If you don't love you, how can you possibly be kind to yourself when you don't live up to your own expectations? Won't you just stand there and look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself, "I knew you'd fail. What did I expect?"
And would you ever say this to your spouse, your kids, your friends?
I'm asking you to start your day with a positive message to yourself. Practice looking at your beautiful, hard working body and say, "I love you, now and forever." When you do it every day, it becomes a habit. When it's a habit, it is no longer difficult. You deserve to be loved by you. Love from others is nice but it can disappear just like that. It is not guaranteed. But your own love for yourself will never go away. You will have that until the day you die.
Every website should have an "About Me" page, yet mine lacks it. I've decided to change this and write a little about me, about why I'm here, and what I'm doing.
My whole life I've spent dieting, it seems. I started at the tender age of 13 when dieting was the thing to do. I didn't really have any weight to lose. I just felt I had to, because all my friends did. Suddenly, there was an expectation to look a certain way. Suddenly, I was no longer good enough the way I looked.
Fast forward three decades. Today, I am a Nutritional Therapy Practitioner. I went into this profession because after so many years of yo-yo dieting, it had become clear to me, that I needed to help others. I needed to go out there and spread the very important message that eating real food is what makes you lose weight. This is how I got started with this business. I wanted to help people lose weight. And I did. With my help, people have accomplished something that they thought they couldn't do. I was able to help people who thought there was nothing left for them to do, that they had to just suck it up and feel big and sick.
But as wonderful as this success feels, I've come to realize more and more that my approach was still wrong. Why would I say such a thing? You see, I'm currently working for a functional doctor in addition to seeing my own clients. I see between six and ten patients every day. About 95% of them want to lose weight. When asked what their highest priority is, I rarely hear the words, "I want to achieve perfect health." Don't get me wrong, there are a few people who are there just to feel better. But the vast majority of my patients want to lose weight, and most of them are still hoping for a magic pill, for a quick and easy approach. As a matter of fact, one young woman told me she would rather be skinny and tired than thick and feel well.
The gravity of this statement didn't sink in until that evening, when it occurred to me that my job is not only to help people lose weight. My job is to help people understand that they are buying into a standard that practically none of us can meet. My job is to remind people that their highest priority needs to be their health, not a number on their scale. My job is to help people learn to live in harmony with their bodies, so that they may accomplish perfect health. In the process they may lose a little weight, a lot of weight, no weight, or even gain weight when it is necessary.
My purpose, my focus is to help YOU to be well... not for the next two weeks but for a lifetime.
If this strikes a chord with you, then please reach out, fill out the form, schedule an appointment. I will work with you and help you accomplish exactly what it is that you really WANT and NEED to accomplish.