"I'm so fat! I look disgusting!" Be honest, how often have thoughts like this crossed your mind as you looked at your reflection in the mirror? The future will be better, because in the future you will have lost 20, 40, 60lbs and you will look so much better. And if you look better, you'll feel better about yourself. You'll be able to fit into the skinny jeans, the little black dress. You wouldn't admit these thoughts to anyone around you. These thoughts are secret. They are nobody's business. Others don't need to know about your self-destructive talk.
Newsflash! You won't feel better about yourself when you lose that weight. You'll find something else that is wrong with you. Now that you've lost the weight, you'll want to lose the flab. You'll want the six pack abs. You'll still see your imperfections. Sure, you'll be excited about the clothes you fit into now. But at home, naked in front of the mirror, the little nagging voice is still there, still bugging you that you are not quite right the way you are.
The Wellness Cycle
Isn't it high time you started loving you now? Wouldn't it be nice to learn to look into that mirror and thank your body for its hard work? Wouldn't you love to be able to look into your own eyes and say with conviction, "I love you."? Wouldn't it be grand, if weight loss was just a positive side effect of your healthy lifestyle rather than the one thing that you want for happiness? Weight loss alone will not give you happiness. It will not make you suddenly love you. The love for you has to be there already. The love for you is the biggest most important thing in the world. If you don't love you, how can you possibly be kind to yourself when you don't live up to your own expectations? Won't you just stand there and look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself, "I knew you'd fail. What did I expect?"
And would you ever say this to your spouse, your kids, your friends?
I'm asking you to start your day with a positive message to yourself. Practice looking at your beautiful, hard working body and say, "I love you, now and forever." When you do it every day, it becomes a habit. When it's a habit, it is no longer difficult. You deserve to be loved by you. Love from others is nice but it can disappear just like that. It is not guaranteed. But your own love for yourself will never go away. You will have that until the day you die.